(WJBK) - A local blogger's article about stay-at-home parents aims to redefine the way we interpret the role. The article is titled, "I'm A Stay-At-Home Mom, Don't Expect Me To Cook and Clean."
"This might ruffle some feathers, but I don't owe my husband his favorite chicken dish and clean underwear simply because I stay home. I'm a stay at home mother - not a stay-at-home maid, not a stay-at-home chef, not a stay-at-home "my responsibility to do everything else besides earn money." I am my child's mother, not my husband's," the blogger writes.
That blogger is Scarlett Longstreet, Alan's wife, and mother to their daughter, Holiday. She joined us on The Nine to talk more about her blog and the article.
She admitted she was using "the screen" with Holiday so she could go off and get chores done, and then she says realized that screen time was just a crutch so she could get the lesser important things done around the house.
"My job as a stay-at-home parent, I was staying home to take care of my daughter. I think if I find that if I try to do everything, if I'm trying to operate from a place of guilt because I'm not financially contributing, so I'm cooking and cleaning - who loses out? It's Holiday. Then I put her in front of the TV so I cook and clean," Scarlett explained.
Derek admits he and his wife, Melissa, talked about the article for hours after they read it.
"[Melissa] said, 'When we drop our daughter off at daycare, we don't expect them to do our laundry or make us dinner. Their job is to watch the baby.' Scarlett is saying, her job is to watch the baby," Derek chimed it.
The bottom line? Scarlett's point is that -- if you, as a stay-at-home parent, can do it all, great. But don't feel guilty about not being able to do it all, either -- because a stay-at-home parent's priority should be the child.
You can hear more from Scarlett, and what Alan, Derek and Deena thought about the article, too, in the video player above.